You asked received an answer and you move on. Often instead of asking a member of Guess Culture will systematically feel out another person and drop hints about what they need.
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In some families you grow up with the expectation that its OK to ask for anything at all but you gotta realize you might get no for an answer.
. This is Ask Culture. A person asked to switch seats often feels obligated to say yes for fear of being rude even when it means a more unpleasant flying experience. So you dont have the burden of having to say no. This is Ask Culture.
It gave me a lot to think about when it comes to understanding how to best delegate tasks and work with your direct reports. If everyone were Guessers everyone would have difficulty communicating beyond the narrow circles that share their specific expectations and taboos. You have to evaluate the person or organization and begin putting out feelers to see if they will potentially say yes or no. Thought this was fascinating to look at through the lens of a leader.
In some families you grow up with the expectation that its OK to ask for anything at all but you gotta realize you might get no for an answer. This is Ask Culture. This talk will cover the nuances of these different communication styles as well as strategies for bridging the gap. Ask Culture vs.
Asking is more universal than Guessing. Guess culture first appeared in a MetaFilter post by Andrea Donderi. In Guess culture by. Theyll never have to make a direct request.
In Guess Culture you wont get requests for anything you likely wont do. Guess Culture depends on a tight net of shared expectations. An acknowledgement of our differences will more likely emerge in a psychologically safe environment. Whats the middle ground between FU and Welcome.
Asking requires the courage to ask and to accept a no. If everyone were Askers everyone would be able to communicate. You only ask when you are certain that they will say yes to whatever it is that you are asking for. But saying no is only a burden because youre a Guesser.
Ask folks believe its ok to ask anything because its ok to say no while Guess folks prioritise not imposing on others. This is Ask Culture Guess Culture In Guess Culture you avoid putting a request into words unless youre pretty. The phrase was then picked up and amplified in articles in. Both approaches are common to different groups of people and neither is right or wrong.
This informative Tumblr thread does a deep dive on the differences between Ask Culture and Guess Culture At the very least itd be nice if some folks read this and are able to learn a helpful thing or two about being a more functional communicator. Guessing is harder than Asking. In a Guess culture asking directly can be seen as tactless and disrespectful. It can give someone who has a hard time saying no all kinds of anxiety if you continue to.
Well the formulation of the issue as ask culture vs. A thoughtful Asker will make a request believing the person they ask has the control to say no. Its a culture clash that isnt often recognized yet causes quite a bit of tension and frustration. A Guesser however thinks such a request is pushy and even borderline manipulativeHow could I possibly say no even if this request is completely inconvenient for me is how a Guesser thinks.
That is how it works. In some families you grow up with the expectation that its OK to ask for anything at all but you gotta realize you might get no for an answer. Inappropriate has no meaning here as there is no harm in asking. In an Ask culture it is acceptable to ask for what you want and not be put out by a negative answer.
But first must come the realisation that we are not all acting from the same script. In Ask culture people grow up believing they can ask for anything a favour a pay rise fully realising the answer may be no. But receiving a no is only a worry if you are unable to cope with a no in a healthy manner. Ask culture focuses on the idea that asking for anything is socially acceptable and even encouraged even if the answer may be a no.
Its not daft to guess that it will offend. Guess culture believes it is harmful to ask especially if. Guess Culture Ask MetaFilter In some families you grow up with the expectation that its OK to ask for anything at all but you gotta realize you might get no for an answer. A clear path between an ask vs guess culture can be paved through curiosity reflection and the desire for a shared understanding.
In Guess Culture you avoid. If they do it right the other person will understand and offer. My partner shared this video with me recently about Ask vs. Within guess culture one only asks directly for something if one guesses that the person you are asking from is willing to dogive the thing.
Another key component in guess culture is evaluating whether or not you should pose the question. A talk on the ask vs. Its a culture clash that isnt often recognised yet causes quite a bit. Ask folks believe its ok to ask anything because its ok to say no while Guess folks prioritize not imposing on others.
Anyone who is guess culture who for example asks me directly to lend them a book is going to be offended if I decline to do so. But making such a request can itself be construed as rude Duane Pickering a 58-year-old flight attendant from Milwaukee agrees saying its entirely within a passengers right to decline an. In Guess Culture you avoid putting a request into words unless youre pretty sure the answer will be yes. In Guess Culture you dont have to worry about receiving a no.
In Guess Culture you avoid putting a request into words unless youre pretty sure the answer will be yes.
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